Let Him Out

Today we were in a restaurant having lunch with three other couples.

The husbands were talking about guy stuff; the wives were talking about gal stuff.

HubbyHubby turns to me and says, "Babe, the guys are going out to see a movie tonight at 8:00."

I started to run the day and evening schedule through my head to see if it would work.

HubbyHubby lovingly said, "Just say, 'Yes.'"

"Yes, my love. Yes."

This reminded me that HubbyHubby needs to go out for guy time. And when the guys make a plan, I need to say, "Okay," and figure out the rest.

HubbyHubby wasn't asking for my permission. He wasn't asking for the schedule. He wasn't looking for a discussion. He was telling me of his need, and he wanted to let me know and allow me to meet his need.

After I responded with "Yes," I could see and hear the third couple still talking it out. The wife had said, "No." He couldn't go out because he was to see that movie the following night with her and the family.

Two out of three men went out that night.

Hmm.

Ladies, when our husbands say they want to go out with the guys, let them go. Your sincere, smiling, response should be, "Okay, have fun. And be good."

Don't give him a song and a dance. Do not reply with any of the following: "When?" "Where?" "With who?" "Wait, let me think." "Why?" "What time will you be back?" "Again?" "How long?" Blah, blah, blah.

This Week: 

When your hubby mentions "the guys," sincerely encourage him to make a "man date."

You can even bring it up yourself and say, "Hey, your favorite team is playing. You should call the guys and go watch it at the sports bar. Yell at the big-screen TV."

You do this simple thing. You do this once a month or so. Do this, and you'll be rewarded with a most happy hubby.

What Do You Like About Your Hubby?

What do you like about your Hubby?

Don't tell me. Tell him!

Tell him how:

• You love his voice, especially when he sings. Say, "Sing me 'Happy Birthday' in that sexy voice of yours."
• You love his choice of music (God, help us). Classic Rock... really?
• You love his good attempts at grilling dinner. Say, "Babe, how about I pour you a cold beer, and you slap this meat on your hot grill. And, here, baby, put this sexy apron on your grill-master-self." And slap his butt and get him grillin' dinner. Rrrrr.
• You love his favorite sports team, and also hate it when they suck. Men have a love/hate relationship with their sports teams. I don't know why. They just do.
• You love how he tries not to get caught checking out some other woman.
• You love they way he loves you, in bed and out. 
• You love his muscles, his broad shoulders, his arms, and muscular thighs. Arrrgh. Even if he doesn't have a six pack, say, "Babe, you losing weight? Nice butt."
• You love it when a man opens a door for you, or when a man gives you his seat instead of letting you stand, or when the grocery clerk helps carry your bags. That'll drive Hubby nuts, by the way.
• You love it when Hubby pulls your seat out at a restaurant, stands up when you have to leave the restaurant table, and stands when you come back.
• You like what he's wearing today.
• You think his hair needs trimming--not a cut, just a little trim around the edges. He'll like that you notice the small stuff about his looks.
• You love his weekend whiskers.
• You love his sexy underwear and how well they fit, and how good the package is looking in them, like a horse.
• You love how hard he works at his job. His job can be really difficult. But this one comment can last all day. 

Ladies... tell Hubby what you like about Hubby.