The Worst Thing You Can Do as a Wife

The worst thing you can do as a wife is to never be happy.

HubbyHubby lives to make me happy.

He asks me several times a day, "Are you happy?"  "How you doin'?"  "Did you take a break today?"  "Did you have fun today?"

Husbands live and breathe to know that their wives are happy, and that they are the source of that happiness. A man likes the way it feels when he knows that his woman is feeling great, and hate the way it feels when she's sad, and will do anything to change that. 


Your Job:

1. Be happy.
2. Tell your hubby (often) that you are happy, and that he is the source of that happiness.

If your hubby makes you smile, more comfortable or fulfilled, tell him. Give him a smile, a peck on the cheek, an unexpected grab, or a slap on the butt. God, they love that little appreciation.


Just Between You and Me:

Yes, I know we are not happy all the time. We have bad days and sad times. But feelings come and go. We can decide to be happy or sad. Try to resolve your temporary situation and decide to be happy.

Sometimes, I even go to HubbyHubby and say, "I'm sad. I need someone to talk to." And he knows from past conversations to just listen and hold me.

Let's Do the Bills

Today I told HubbyHubby that we need to sit down and do the bills.  Argh. 

HubbyHubby said, "Let's make a date out of it."

I took it from there.

I got some fancy wine, cheese, crackers and fruit.

Put the kiddos to bed.

Set the table up with a candle, our little spread, and all the bills.

The bills were stressful, but we made each other laugh and plowed through them.

What daunting task needs to be done?
How can you make it fun and less stressful for your hubby?

#1 on My List

I love to-do lists.

There are a million things on my list on any given day.

Priority #1 on my list: Make sure the needs of HubbyHubby are met, and that he's taken care of.

Priority #2 on my list: Attend to everything else (kids, job, parents, PTA, hobbies, yadda-yadda-yadda).

Back to #1. HubbyHubby needs:

• Food
• Sex... or is it sex, then food? We'll get back to that later.
• Football
• "Gold Rush" (a TV show about a bunch of fellas digging for gold)
• Companionship
• Love
• Shoulder massages
• Attention
• Appreciation
• Kindness
• Words of affirmation
• Praise
• Encouragement  
• Man time: TV, guys' night out, football, cigars and bourbon. He loves a good Kentucky bourbon.

The list actually goes on and on.

What does your hubby need?

Start a list of what he needs. Don't know? Ask him:

"Hey, hubby, what do you need?" 

Make sure he comes first on your "list of things to do" today and every day.