The Traveling Husband

Treat your traveling husband like a king.

Today, I learned about husbands who travel. Three wives told me what it's like to have a traveling husband, how they deal with it, how they survive, what works and what doesn't work.

Wife # 1 said that part of her husband's work requires him to attend really great parties and hang out with celebrities while she holds down the fort at home.

Wife # 2 said her husband calls her, tells her what a tough day he's had and that he's going to "stay in tonight and order room service." He spends the night sitting in a luxurious hotel room watching whatever he likes on the big screen TV, while wife holds down the fort at home with 3 kids, laundry and soccer car pooling like mad.

Wife #3 said her husband "throws a wrench into things" when he comes home.  Her schedule and groove was all set and when hubby comes home she actually thinks, "Argh. When are you leaving again?"

When spouses travel (husband or wife), it can put stress on the marriage.

How can we treat our traveling hubby like a king?

1. Renew your mind.
2. Stay thankful.
3. Be excited and celebrate his return, no matter what he did while he was away.

Here are a few ideas on how to treat your traveling Hubby like a king.

• You and the kids make welcome home signs for Dad.
• Make or pick up his favorite dinner.
• Throw a table cloth on the table and light a candle for dinner.

Yes. He could be having a great time while away.  But being away from you is probably very hard on him.

When I asked my girl friends, "Where would their husband rather be? Home with you and the kids, or on the road?" The immediate and common response (even before I could finish my question) was "at home with the family."

Ah, yes. And there's the heart of our wonderful husbands.

Are they out with a sword sleighing dragons for us? No. Not literally.
Are they in the wilderness with a bow and arrow, hunting and bringing home a kill for dinner? No.
Are they at war fighting a battle to save your home and property? No.

But they are out, on the road for one main reason. One main purpose. To provide and take care of you. You. And the family. Men live to provide and protect. Read The King's Guide for details.

So, when your Hubby comes home, celebrate his return with his favorite things on the planet:

• Amazing sex
• His favorite food
• Appreciation
• Adoration
• Love
• Attention
• Compassion
• And all-out thankfulness for his heart and life.

And yes, my HubbyHubby travels.

How do you treat your traveling hubby like a king?

He's Looking at Other Women When We're Out Together

Have you ever been out with your Hubby only to catch him turning his head to look at another woman?

How does that make you feel?

Yep. I understand. So, here's something to think about: Be that woman he's looking at. Be her. What happens if you dress to catch his eye. Dress to turn his head to you. Dress to get his attention. 

Why? Because men are visual.

What are you wearing right now? Look down at your outfit. What do you have on?

Do you know what your husband likes to look at? Do you know what he likes to see you in?

This week, plan some time to sit down with your Hubby. Make him his favorite drink (coffee, beer, lemonade, bourbon, etc.), and show him some fashion magazines, store catalogues, or outfits on the web.

Ask him what he likes. Ask. Don't take too long though. Just 5 minutes.

I have two favorite places where I love to shop. When those catalogs show up in the mail, I flip through with HubbyHubby, and he tells me what he likes. Lead him on with, "Hm. That's nice." Or, "Hm, she's looks cute in that. Yes?"

Within time and budget, I order or buy those outfits. Then--and this is HubbyHubby's favorite part--after the kids are in bed, I put on a fashion show for him. I make sure he sits where he can catch a glimpse of me changing. It's a fun little special time for us together, and now I'm his "head-turner."

Each week, plan your outfits so that your appearance is well kept.

No time? Make time. Remember, men are visual. What you wear is important to your Hubby.

Sex Again? Now? Really!?

There is a certain time of day when HubbyHubby likes to "get it on."

With three little ones at home, timing isn't always easy.

In fact, there are more than a million excuses NOT to "get it on."

However,... I make it happen. I make arrangements. I schedule it in (so to speak). I don't make excuses.

Ladies.... give your hubby the sex he wants at his favorite time of day.

Her are some tips and tricks:

• Babies at home? Have sex when they are napping or asleep.

• Too tired? Take a nap.

• School age children at home? Put on a movie. Set them up with books on tape. Set out fun breakfast foods, crayons and coloring books and tell them, "Mommy and Daddy are sleeping in tomorrow."

• Put them to bed early.

• Too much to do? Do your hubby first! The rest will wait.

What tricks and tips do you have to make sure you and your hubby have sex?